Friday, May 18, 2018

Sweet Salvage ~ Sweet Retreats



So here we are once again my Friends, the pilgrimage to the Monthly Themed Event at SWEET SALVAGE.   This Month's Theme is 'Sweet Retreats' and the Vibe and Styling are some that I particularly was drawn to and mirrored many of my own personal preferences and Eclectic Tastes.




So of coarse that meant there were numerous Treasures I would have liked to have brought Home with me and even with restraint I tapped the budget more than I anticipated doing.  But it happens... and the few Treasures I couldn't resist were well worth the splurge for Spring Decorating.  Though I hadda leave numerous fab Loving Cup Trophies behind since alas, they were not within paltry budget.  *Le Sigh*




I already have a considerable Collection from Years of Sourcing Loving Cup Trophies so now I have to discern which would enhance the Collection best.  Most of mine are Copper and Bronze, tho' I do have some Antique Sterling... most of the gorgeous specimens at the Event were Silver and of better quality than I could outlay for right now.  But it was nice to see so many in groupings and vignettes... I Love Decorating with mine.




And if you were lacking in Vintage Dress Forms, with or without Stands and Cages, there was an abundance of those too!  I'm in the process of upgrading all of mine to the most coveted Antique specimens and Selling off the rest to fund the Goal.   I'd rather have less of the best than an abundance of ones that I'm quite willing to part with to fund an upgrade.   I Love Vintage and Antique Dress Forms though, they have gone up in price and gained in Value since I began Collecting them many years ago.  In hindsight, I should have bought the coveted ones way back then.




But tastes change you know, I think as well as every Cell in your Body being replaced every seven years, I find that in about a similar amount of time I'm ready to replace many things in the Home too!  Since my tastes goes thru a metamorphosis as well, don't  yours?   Things I was Passionate about a decade ago, in some cases, the Honeymoon Phase of J'Adoration is over and I can more easily Let Go.  Or even desperately want to purge them and replace with something fresh and different!




I don't particularly want our Home to look like one of those Time Capsule properties that froze in Time.   And so, I find myself in a Phase of J'Adoring some different Styles and things right now.  To go with that Desired Look which will be fresh to our Home, I bought two of those Numbered Vintage Industrial Black mini Metal Storage Boxes with faux Greenery.




I am extremely deep into The Process of purging from the Hoarded Garages at Home, in fact I have numerous Banana Boxes filled with fresh Inventory for the Showroom and Booth #317 as soon as I have enough room for any of it.  With just shutting down Booth #502 for the Summer, my remaining two spaces are rather filled to the rafters right now.  It's a good problem to have Inventory awaiting a rotations into my spaces tho', I won't need to Source anything all Summer long until I've depleted what I'm purging and culling from Home.




This was one of my favorite Vignettes at the Event since it's very similar to the Style I'm transforming some of my personal spaces to resemble.  It's a Look I'm drawn to on a visceral level and that's how I always prefer to Style our Home.   Relying upon Deep inward Feelings rather than Intellect or thinking too hard about Styling or Creating always works best for me, otherwise it just ends up too contrived for my liking.




I never have an actual Plan when I'm Decorating or Re-Decorating anyway, I have a loose Idea based on Objects and a Look that resonates with me.   Then just putting it all together for a Style of Decor that just Feels Right when it's finished and is not only Visually appealing, but Comfortable, is my end Goal.  I've done much of the parameter of the Hoarded Double Car Garage against the Walls, so now only the Center Hoard remains to tackle.  I'd like one more Cooler Morning to drag everything outside from the Center and have more room to work.




What I had waffled on just days ago I've been able to go back in and Cull later on and decide to part with.  So I'm not agonizing too much about making a firm decision immediately anymore.  It's working out much better to revisit the Objects a few days later and see how I now Feel about whether they should individually Stay or Go?!   I'm falling out of Love with a lot that previously I had thought I was Attached to, the main catalyst being, Selling it gleans resources to purchase the Dream pieces instead.




At the moment, while outlaying for Dental bills and Home repairs there is no budget for Dream pieces.   So during this pilgrimage I concentrated on finding Modest and inexpensive pieces, picking up five 1970's Equestrian Show Ribbons in faded Pink and tea stained Cream from my Friend Shelly's Vignettes.   When I can find Old Show Ribbons at a bargain I always buy them since I like Decorating with them and using them for Creative Projects.




So here's my cache' of Show Ribbons along with a good Book I also bought at the Event, they always carry Trendy Decor Books that you just can't find in the Big Box Bookstores.   I find that the Bookstores don't concentrate much on Decorating Books and I usually have a better selection in my own Library than they offer at a Barnes & Noble or such places that specialize in Books.  *LOL*  This Book is really good and has page after page of Inspiration for Decorating.




Here's a little sneak peek for you of some of the luscious Imagery in the Book of a Room of a Home to Die for!   Of coarse, when Decorating, if you happen to have the good fortune of a lovely Home's backdrop it makes all the difference.  But even if you don't much like your Home or it's Architectural elements, or lack thereof, you can Create an incredible Illusion with good Decor and a sense of Style.  To camouflage almost any structure's flaws or boring mass built cookie cutter design is a Talent you can perfect.




Here's my most extravagant purchase from the Event, this unique Business Card Holder, Trophy Style, Antique Statuary of a Woman on top of a Lion.  It's spelter with a bronze wash.  I've never seen anything like it and you know what they say about that... if you've never seen it before and Love it, buy it!  *Winks*  You can also see my Metal Boxes with the faux Greenery.




A few other things I bought, but not at the Event, were some cement Planters with faux Succulent Greenery 50% Off, some ornate Wire Trim on Sale 50% Off... and tho' full price, I couldn't resist that Test Tube Vase inside of a faux Petrified Wood Tree Ring which I put some faux Greenery in also.  The Meditation Room is Upstairs and since I don't go Upstairs daily I don't want to utilize real plants that I'd have to Care for, but I want Greenery for the space so am finding realistic looking faux Greenery.




One other Big Box Craft Store buy was this lovely Freshwater Pearl Pendant encased in Bling for only seven bucks!!!   But I digress... Sorry my ADHD is showing, LOL... now back to the Event... *Winks*




It was a lovely Sunny day tho' quite Hot, so tho' I got a good place in line and great parking since I arrived plenty early, I didn't luck out with the early VIP entry drawing so it was quite sweltering waiting for the doors to open.  Summertime at Events can be brutal if there is line standing outside so I'll have to rethink my strategy about how badly I want to get in early over the Summer when it's even hotter... or arrive later, but not overheat!?  *LOL*




Now I know my reasons for early arrival aren't typical, I don't come earlier to get the best stuff... there isn't another thing in this World that I really NEED so that sense of Urgency is long gone!  *LMAO*   I don't Care if you get to it first, no matter how Awesome it was, I can Celebrate you procuring it before the rest of us without Envy or resentment that I didn't get to it first.   I arrive early primarily to get decent Parking since Diabetic issues with my feet make walking or standing quite painful sometimes.  And secondary is to get the best possible Coverage of any Event before it gets ravaged by the eager Crowds.




I am fully aware of how much long, hard Work goes into the Presentation of these Events and what a Talent it is to be able to Merchandise it exceptionally in these gorgeous Vignettes and Displays.   Preserving that Visually thru the Eye of my lens for endless Inspiration before it's dismantled as it's Sold off, is important to me.  I know how much my peeps here in The Land Of Blog appreciate it too, since not everyone can attend every Event and yet want to experience it Virtually.




I too thoroughly enjoy visually experiencing Events, Shops and Shows that have been Shared here in The Land Of Blog by other Bloggers.  It has greatly expanded my Bucket List of places and Events I want to eventually experience in Real Life.   It's endless Inspiration to see how the Masters do it when they're Decorating, Styling and Merchandising their Wares.  Here's my Statue as I first laid Eyes upon her, on the most AMAZING Antique Fireplace Mantle I ever saw!  Had budget permit, that's a Statement Piece I would have liked to have owned lemme tell ya!




The Antique Fireplace Mantle that I will be utilizing in my Meditation Room is one I've owned for decades but which I do eventually plan to upgrade.  I'll be Selling it off to justify the upgrade to something more grandiose like that one the Statue was on.   But for the time being I do not have room in my Showroom for the flip of mine and it would take some additional Savings to come up with the balance towards the upgrade as well to get what I want as a Dream piece Antique Mantle.  So that upgrade will have to wait a while longer.




So, we've covered my Desire to upgrade some of my Vintage Dress Forms... and one of my Antique Fireplace Mantles... and frankly I've been upgrading a lot of items slowly and methodically over Time.   My Vintage Suitcase Collection is a prime example of a successful upgrade.  I'd Sold Off a Hoard of Old Suitcases I didn't have attachments to in order to purchase my absolute favorite ones to Collect and store items in.  It took time, it didn't happen all at once, successful upgrades seldom do, it's not an instant gratification kind of thing to upgrade possessions or properties, it takes patience and resolve. 




Another Dream piece item I would have liked to have sprung on was the headless Antique Mannequin.  I have numerous lesser Mannequins I could flip to fund such a purchase, I just haven't done it yet.  Well, I have several Mannequins up for Sale, but mostly my Customers have been buying the Clothing off of them rather than the Vintage Mannequins... what can I say!?  It's a running joke in the Family, since I never intended to Sell Boho Clothing, but didn't want a bunch of naked Mannequins in the room seeming creepy or perverse since many Families come to our Mall.  *LOL*




So I began dressing them for modesty sake with Clothing Styles I'd wear myself... but in smaller sizes of coarse since most of my Mannequins are not BMW Real Women sizes.  *Winks*   So, apparently many of the Young people who shop my spaces are diggin' the Wardrobes of said Mannequins and so every time I go into the Mall most are naked again!!!  And so it continues... constantly... that I have to Source Wardrobe until a Mannequin Sells and the Family think that is hilarious!  *Bwahahahahaha!*




Even tho' I do have a Fabulous Master Bathroom with a Spa Tub, I do so miss our Antique Slipper Cast Iron Tub that was at the Old Homestead and I Sold to my Friends Brett and Myko when I moved.   Soaking in an Antique Slipper Tub, well, there's nothing quite like it my Friends.  I've seriously thought about putting one in my Inner Courtyard eventually to bathe under the Stars again... after we install a Pergola of coarse.  *Winks*   We are in the flight path of Jet Pilots in Training and I don't wanna be responsible for a sight that causes a Young Pilot to crash his Jet!?!  *Bwahahahahaha!!!*




So here's the Vignette on the other side of the Fabulous Mantle I couldn't buy... a bunch of the perfect Color Metal Vintage Loving Cup Trophies, alas, no budget for any of them.  *Pouting Petulantly!*  I actually liked the Silver one best, I have a preference for Loving Cups that have Engraving and Dates.




But as you can plainly see, the majority of the Loving Cups were of the better quality and not entry level Collector prices.   I have been Collecting mine for years but the budget to Score them is still at entry level I'm afraid!  *Le Sigh*  The big ticket Dream piece ones are way over my price point to snag and it's getting harder to just find them at a bargain if they are of good quality now that people do Decorate with them.  In the Old Days nobody wanted someone else's Trophies and therefore you could get them for a Song... which I did... and it spoiled me.




I got spoiled with Architectural Salvage in much the same way since back in da day you could get it Free!  Or those razing Historic Homes would actually offer to pay me to haul it away and take it off their hands {Gasp... I know... booyah!}!   Because back then they thought you were a Nut Job for even Collecting such things as Architectural Salvage and couldn't imagine what you'd even be doing with it?!?  *LOL*  Truth be told, my own Family and Friends thought me a Nut Job for Collecting and Styling with it way back then... now they're not laughing anymore given the prices and demand for such things and the Hoard I had procured to make Bank with now it's Trended!  *Winks*




So here's to Celebrating us Junk Queens and Junk Kings who everyone used to mock back in da day and who now Wish and Dream they had some of the shit we got for virtually nothing... or got paid to haul away and Rescue from the Landfills!  It still exists Today because of all of our hard work way back when... when few Valued any such things!  Give yourselves a hand all you Junquers, Preservationist Minded and Salvage Dawgs!  You've Preserved pieces of History... one piece at a time!

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Blessings, Love and Light from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

Monday, May 14, 2018

The Evaluation And My Sex Ed Refresher




At the last Emergency IEP Meeting at the School for Princess T that we had, the one to restore and re-qualify her for the Special Ed and Resource Services to bring the Grades back up again... you know, after they took Services away when she got some A's on her Report Card... and then went back to all F's because Mainstreaming a Child with Special Needs isn't all that cut and dried... her Administrators, Teachers and Caseworkers had told me I should get her evaluated for Attention Deficit.   Now, it's not as if I didn't already know this was coming, with having it myself and having raised some Kids with it already, I know the Signs of Attention Deficits, among other things.  It's just that when you're raising a Special Needs Kiddo you just don't want one more Label affixed that has the word Deficit in it and will require a Treatment Plan and all the difficult decisions that go along with that baggage!




However, for the IEP to accommodate any Deficits or Disabilities that will affect Learning or Behavior and ability to focus well enough to be functional and get thru School, it has to be formally Evaluated and then Diagnosed by a Doctor.   I know the Drill... this ain't my first Rodeo.   I sighed deeply and said Yes, it was clearly Time to do The Evaluation, since now it was interfering to the point of causing considerable hardship and heightened Anxiety for her.  Not to be able to perform at a 6th Grade Level and be taught what she needs to know at this stage of development and academia, was causing a lot of stress, a lot of distress and self-esteem issues.  The Kiddo already has enough Issues piled up, so if we can eliminate or reduce just one, it's not all bad.   The Initial stage of The Evaluation was to be this Afternoon... but first, this Morning, I had to attend the Sex Ed Parental Meeting for 6th Graders, to go over what will be taught in the Classes if we consent and the Alternative Classes if Parents don't consent.   Yeah, it was gonna be one of THOSE days... Splendid!   




I knew a lot of Grandparents raising their Grands would not be in attendance and everyone in the room would likely be Young enough to be my own Kids!  *Smiles*  But I was also curious about what hang-ups about sexuality this Community... or that Generation... might have... it might be a hoot??!  *Winks*  I'd already signed Princess T's consent form so she was going and I Trusted whatever Scientifically and physiologically they'd be Teaching and she should know, they have good Teachers there... then let me fill in any blanks and do my part as a Parent addressing the inevitable of them growing up and having that open dialogue, as is our Custom.  Out of the entire 6th Grade three whole Parents showed up for the Meeting, including me it was four, clearly out here in affluent Subdivision Hell the Yuppies and Fundie Communities have this totally covered... which should be interesting in a few years if they don't really!?!   And from the Intel my Grands are telling me about many of their peers... they don't... REALLY! 




The Teachers informed us that less than 49% had already been Approved to attend the Classes and the rest would take an Alternative Class that leaves out anything sexual, Scientific or physiological in nature.   Now that should be an interesting Alternative, but they'll try to walk that tightrope of vaguely Informing but respecting Family boundaries, ways and comfort levels of the topic by leaving a lot of shit out.   But, not my Monkeys, not my Circus, those Families will have to run their own damage control behind their own Offspring, I'm concentrating on keeping mine as Informed as Humanly possible.  So we hopefully don't and won't have a shitload of damage control to run until they are grown ass Adults dealing with their own shit.  Especially with the statistics that clearly show abstinence just isn't happening during puberty no matter what Adults may be forbidding until Adulthood or what the Family Values or Moral Compass may or may not be!  And ignorance certainly is NOT bliss when it comes to risks that significantly can alter lives or end them!  Not to mention, I'm not keen on raising Great-Grandkids too... I'm kinda Over raising Kids after two Generations of it!  *LOL*





Mine already has no problem attending her Sex Ed Class and then discussing that topic with her Grandpa and I candidly and anytime she needs accurate information about Growing Up, no topic is taboo or skirted.   It's not a fail safe of coarse, both of our Daughters were Teen Parents and no Family can predict accurately how Life will just play out... just keep on living... shit happens, even in the best of Families!  But, having lived in The Hood for many Years, both of The Force knew enough very Young Teens who were already Parents way too early, so they have few delusions.  In spite of being Special Needs Kiddos they've been Old Souls about Life Issues and trying to avoid bad outcomes if possible.  We discuss the hard stuff early, mebbe earlier than most Families and certainly without inhibitions about covering the whole gamut without embarrassment or shame.  You need to, it's a tough job but you have to do it, everyone goes thru puberty and everyone makes mistakes in Life, so put those two facts together and a lot can happen!




So my peeps, now that I've had my Sex Ed Refresher for the Over Sixty Club on a Sixth Grade Level, if you have any Questions, feel free to ask!  *Bwahahaha!*  Actually nothing has changed physiologically speaking, nor Scientifically speaking and Humans are still having Sex and all the Natural Urges puberty stirs... that about covers it.   The one thing the other Moms and I did discuss was that we thought Modern Children are Maturing prematurely and more of them are becoming Early Bloomers.  Perhaps its better Diet, growth Hormones added to our foods, shit, who knows... I just know that the average Grade School Kid now often already looks like a grown ass Adult and that is scary as Hell since they are NOT!   I have more than half my Grandkids who are already grown and have become Young Adults... but it scares me shitless when I see the ones still aged 10-16 who look as Mature as their Adult Siblings and Cousins!   Princess T who is only 12, and her slightly Younger Sister in Mexico who is only 11, both look much older and not like Kids so much anymore.  It scares their Big Brother, Uncle and Grandpa half to death!




I know when I got this Image of Princess T's slightly younger 11 year old Sister, who lives in Mexico, playing Model and Sharing it with her Gramma Dawn, I fairly had a slight mini Heart Attack myself!   The Man and her Big Brother, The Young Prince, said they're just relieved we're not raising that one too, coz they'd be spread too thin offering Protection from Admirers for her and Princess T!  *LOL*   Her Dad has his work cut out for him and he has 3 more younger ones just like her at Home... better him than us... tall order for any Dad raising Daughters... I'll Pray for him!  *Smiles*  Why, it was only Yesterday it seems that she looked like the little Girl she actually is... but she's an Early Bloomer, like her Older 12 year old Sister we're raising and damn... blossoming, blooming fully and you just can't stop Nature or puberty... you just have to roll with it!   And it's not as if the opposite sex will not notice the changes... they noticed even before the Girls stopped thinking Boys were gross and had cooties!  *LOL*  Well, actually, Princess T still isn't that smitten with Boys, Thank God... she finds most of them to be totally annoying... hold that thought... for perhaps about another six years will ya?!?  *LMAO*




So, back to original Topic now... The Evaluation... it went smoothly and we had a very good Doctor who we really liked who was doing it.   After his Initial Questionnaire he looked at me and said, Yeah, Houston, we have a Problem... but we'll have to go thru the entire Process and then come up with a Game Plan.  He saw my expression and added... and don't worry, things have improved a lot and we no longer just default to Meds, even if Teachers are screaming for it, it's more a last resort now!   *Whew!*   I had told him the Family History with two of our Adult Children with formal diagnosis... and the physical damage Meds have done to her Older Brother.  Who mos def needed them and had to have them to stabilize and try to Manage Serious Mental Health and extreme ADHD behaviors since Age 7, but whose health was wrecked by Age 15 after years of being Medicated, so we had to discontinue ALL Meds to save his very Life!   Now he's trying to Manage his conditions au natural... which is hairy as Hell and basically unstable! 





We were sent Home with Homework for me to fill out and which ever of her Teachers we felt she had the most trouble in Class with to fill out the other forms.  I told the Doc that would be ALL of them {smiles}... but we'll let the School decide which Teacher loses and has to fill out the paperwork?!  *Winks*  I liked that he's inclusive of Princess T being a vital part of her own Game Plan and giving her Understanding about what's going on and Why.  She Received it well, she knows she has a Problem, she has Awareness and she's intelligent enough to realize she needs Solutions.   She in fact was the one who kept urging me to ask Why she can't focus, pay attention or stay on task, because it's really bothersome and frustrating to her.   We know she gets distracted easily and continuously... we also know there have been some Behavioral Health concerns along the way since people in general annoy her and she realizes it.  Sometimes she doesn't mind being Social and Popular, other times she just wants people to not engage with her at all and doesn't want any around her.  That is Beast Princess Mode, it's been that way a long time, now magnified by puberty's onset.




So I immediately did my Homework and filled out my Questionnaire, I should be a damned Expert at filling out these Evaluation Forms by now after literally Decades of doing it for one Child or another with 'Issues'.   I always Hope a Child will bypass all that shit and just be 'Normal'... which I know is subjective and highly overrated a term, but you know... just sayin'.   It would be nice, I think, to raise a Child without Disabilities for a change... perhaps it's easier, I couldn't tell ya.  I have babysat allegedly 'Normal' Kiddos... and frankly, it wasn't even like having a Child around... it was so laid back and low maintenance that I was suspicious!   I kept checking on them constantly to make sure everything was alright... because they were so quiet, so calm, not moody, so compliant, so... Okay... NORMAL!  *LOL*   Nobody got on the Crazy Train, nobody had Mood regulation Issues, I didn't have to scrape them off the ceiling, there weren't so many Dietary restrictions you were feeding them foods that cost five times as much as usual, there wasn't this huge Med regimen to follow, they actually slept and stayed asleep... you know, shit like THAT!  You raisers of 'Normal' Children, you have it so easy!  *Winks*





Mine have inherited our Family Dark Humor tho' and they recognize their differences from most of their peers... unless of coarse those peers have Special Needs and Disabilities too and then they're more like them usually.   So we have some inappropriate jokes about it all, levity can bring you from the brink of Insanity sometimes to make light of particular challenges and keep it all in perspective so you don't magnify shit to the point of being completely overwhelmed or hopeless.   It's not as if we think we're the Ozzie and Harriet cast... more like Ozzy and Sharon cast!  *Winks*   The Young Prince has the best Dark Humor perspective on Families... he said EVERY Family has their level of dysfunction, some just clean up real well in Public and can 'pass' for functional... but behind closed doors, who the Hell knows how screwed up they really are?  *LOL* 

  


And between all the Meetings and Doc Evaluation that is a part of our 'Normal' days and routines... I actually got to go in and re-style one side of my Showroom at the Antique Mall!   A Vendor Friend was giving away some nice tall Black and Dark Brown vertical Bookshelves and a small Grey Corner Bookshelf, so I swapped out my low horizontal Bookshelves for them and brought the low ones Home for the Meditation Room makeover.  I had been wanting to do that for a long time but didn't have replacement Shelving for my Smalls at the Mall, so this was just the ideal Solution and cost me nothing!!!   So at least against one Wall now the Showroom looks 'New' and remodeled.   And I schlepped the trio of low Black Bookshelves Upstairs, but haven't placed them yet since the Meditation Room needs Painting first.   I've finally decided firmly that one Wall will be Chalkboard Black and then an adjoining Wall will have Shiplap horizontal Salvage Wood.  Then the remaining two Walls will be a pleasing Grey of some shade.  I have decided against my Kabuki Red Walls, not that I don't want or like them with the Black, since my Art Studio Cottage at the Historic Home ROCKED with that Gothic combination... but for resale eventually, not Generic enough to appeal to masses of New Buyers.




And I'm just at that Season of Life now where less Future Work and re-dos are more Appealing to me... so just doing it the Easy and Practical Route the first time makes more sense in the long haul!   I have Eclectic Tastes that I know don't Appeal to many... but to add maximum Investment Value and Less Work to this Home, I'm going Safe and more Status Quo on some Remodeling decisions.   I know, I'm stifling the Rebel and Free Spirit in me somewhat, but it's compromises I can easily Live with because I do LIKE some Status Quo shit, I ain't gonna lie, some of it grows on me after enough exposure to it.  *LOL*  The Salvage Wood Wall thing is a Look I really dig in fact... and I'm eager to decide upon what kind of Salvage Reclaimed Lumber I want to use?!?





After scouring the Internet Imagery I feel either one of the above two would Appeal to me, tho' the lower one would be more soothing for a Meditation Space and go well with the Grey on the other Walls... so I doubt I'd go with the more Colorful stimulating one in that Space anyway... tho' it's a definite possibility for another Room another time... *Smiles*   And of coarse the installation is something I'll probably do myself unless installation doesn't cost a Kidney or something?  *Winks*   Lord knows this Month alone has come with enough crippling costs that were unexpected or emergency related that it's tapped me out for May completely already!!! 




Tho' on Mother's Day I did pick up this very heavy ornate metal Vintage Incense Burner for a mere five bucks at our Antique Mall.   Artistically it has a lot going on with it's stylization and I just fell in Love with it and hadda have it... and at that price I just couldn't resist bringing it Home like a Prize Trophy!   I like to burn Incense and finding Burners that are Decorative is just a Plus.




With what is going on with Princess T... and how so many Females in our Family just are... I found this Gem to be particularly Amusing and can definitely relate to it on a personal level too, as being entirely how the thought process often goes!  *Winks*




And I'll end this Post with some Positive Shares that The Daughter-In-Law and The Son took on Mother's Day and just warmed my Proud Mother's Heart.   Parenting can be rough, Parenting a Special Needs Child can be even rougher and often disheartening and scary as to what the Future might hold... but The Son is powerful Testimony of a High Maintenance difficult Special Needs Child turning into a Fine Man.  Despite all the grim prognosis and diagnosis I was given by the Medical Community and Educators when he was growing up and Labeled with significant Disabilities, he has overcome and been tenacious about Living fully.  Yes, it just made Life more challenging, but no less Full and Promising... Life is after all what we make it... and a diagnosis of any kind, is not ALL that you ARE... so do not Define yourself, or others, by it alone my Friends!




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Blessings, Love and Light from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Remembering Mom's Sayings



Now that my Mom has passed from Time into Eternity I no longer make a Big Deal out of Mother's Day on Purpose.  Mostly because it can be a difficult day for The G-Kid Force and their Mom to get thru, since she's not here with them nor able to raise them.  It totally changes the dynamic of a Mother's Day when yours isn't around physically.  So usually I get up early on Mother's Day and do some Me Time just for myself in quiet Celebration of being a Mother, a Grandmother and a Great-Grandmother.  Today this entailed heading for The Desert Botanical Gardens to have an early Breakfast at 'Gertrude's Restaurant' before all the Reservations showed up and  before it got too Hot to dine alfresco in the Courtyard.   This was the first visual I had beside my vehicle in the parking lot, a Natural Heart inside of a healing Tree limb that had been cut off... how surreal and appropriate!  It made me think of Mom immediately, it takes a lot of healing when you lose your Mom, cut off physically, all that remains is the Love inside of your broken Heart.




It was a beautiful day and not very Hot, balmy Seventies, even with a slight Cool breeze blowing.  Ideal to spend time outside in Nature and dining alfresco surrounded by the Natural beauty that is the Desert in Springtime!   Deserts might be barren compared to most landscapes, but in Springtime they explode with a profusion of vivid colored Blossoms.   I strolled the Garden Paths after a delightful Breakfast of Gertie's Eggs Benedict with Chorizo over Sopa, fingerling smashed Potatoes and Berry Basil Lemonade.   I was deep in remembrance of Mom's sayings, which I miss hearing so much.   Bloody Hell instantly comes to Mind, I do't know if Hell would be Bloody or not, but it's was one of Mom's Classics when she was upset, irritated or angry!  *LOL*  Working like a Navvy... which I never knew as a Child what a Navvy even was, just that they must Work very hard at manual labor!  *Smiles*   Now I know it was manual laborers working on major civil engineering projects... so now I instantly think of guys with pick axes changing railroad ties or excavating tunnels!




Since Mom's Native Language was not English, she would often use Welsh words as though they were English words, and when I was a Kid I didn't realize they weren't English and that nobody understood what the Hell I was talking about!  *LMAO*   When she was really mad Mom couldn't remember much English at all in her fury, so if she was exclusively talking or yelling in Welsh, you knew you were really screwed and had pushed her right over the Edge!  *LOL*   Mothers and Daughters... it can be a very complex relationship... especially when everyone's estrogen is at full tilt!  *Smiles*   Mom and I had a very complex relationship at times and a very enjoyable one at other times.  When things got too complicated I just held Space for her until the complications resolved, which they always did in due time.   I knew that I was Loved, even tho' Mom and I were polar opposites in so many ways, which could cause conflict that could get pretty epic lemme tell ya!  So it had to be a mutual unconditional Love despite our obvious differences and some of the Drama that could play out. 




My Mom and my Maternal Nanna were very Dramatic and Intense Women, Nanna was in the Theater and on Stage, Mom did Ballet and Ballroom Dancing for many years... I believe they both just had an incredibly Artistic temperament!   Both could be very Fiesty Gals and Strong Willed Women... I suppose I did get a lot of that same genetic disposition, even tho' I personally prefer to be a Drama Free Mama and Intense people can drain me quickly so I do have to limit my exposure!   The G-Kid Force's Mom is so much like Mom and Nanna in her Intensity and Dramatic Flair!   She and I acknowledge that as a Mother and Daughter who are so different in Personality and Lifestyle, we too have to just unconditionally Love.  It is the best and purest Love really, not having conditions attached to it.   Allowing the other person to just Be who they are.




These last three Images were of a Mama Dove on her Nest with two Babies, she was very tolerant of all the Photographs everyone was taking of her feeding and tending to her brood.   They could all barely still fit in the tiny Nest so I think it won't be long before her Babies outgrow it and must move out.  That's what Parenting is all about really, preparing your Children to become Young Adults that will go on to have their Lives, Dreams and Goals in the Journey that is Life.  Those Journeys can go all over the place... to some Good places and some Bad places... but Hopefully Home is always the Sanctuary one can return to and know unconditional Love is always waiting inside for you.   I Miss both of my Dearly Departed Parents for totally Selfish reasons, I know they both have gone on to a better place in the Afterlife so I never grieved that... I grieved MY Loss of them from Time, as they entered Eternity.   I know both wait for me on the other side of the Afterlife and one helluva reunion will one day come.




But until then of coarse we still have all of our Memories, our Remembrance... and on this day, Mother's Day, we can pay Homage to the Women that brought us into this Life and gave us the Gift that is Life.   No matter what kind of relationship you might have with your Mom, that is a Precious and Priceless Gift given by every Mother that bore her Children.   There is no such thing as a Perfect Parent nor a Perfect Child, in our Humanity we are flawed, but Love overlooks a multitude of those flaws and abides, even after Death.   So this Mother's Day of 2018 I want to Wish my Mom in Heaven a Happy Mother's Day... our Love eternal goes on and will never, ever end.  Love and Miss you Mom... Mwah




A very Happy and Memorable Mother's Day to all you Mothers out there!  Celebrate yourselves, even if you don't have Family around to Celebrate with you... the Gift of Life you gave is a Sacred one!!!




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Happy Mother's Day from the Arizona Desert... Dawn... The Bohemian
A life touched by God always ends in touching others. - Erwin McManus

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars. - Og Mandino (1923-1996)

For creativity to flourish one should try to look at everything as though it were being seen for the first or the last time. - Quote from "A Thousand Paths To Creativity" by David Baird

Is what I'm about to say an improvement on silence? ~ Galen Pearl